Bored indian housewives, want some friends....Must have a baby

I know....sounds little bizzare if you are not prepared for the liitle one, but its a fact. Nope i don't want to sound like your mom or Mom in law , but i do have a very strong reason behind this. Ok if you are absolutely bored with your life, cos you dont have any friends to share your thoughts except  your husband, you are celebrating all  indian festivals with your hubby only, also no one to go  for movie or lunch or dinner except your lovely hubby, spending hours on shopping and have some fun girl time ....well i wont say except husband cos they anyways dont do this ( mine doesn't, if yours does no offense...but trust me its an anomaly)...then my dear friends you need a BABY.:) uhuh dont get me wrong,  with definitely no offense to babies...baby will not help you do any this, by any means , infact he or she will make all these things happen more difficult, but the best good thing they will do is make you take them to the park and there school and that is where you will find your first FRIEND. Its my personal experience..i was too shy to go out alone and make friends..i never did that , but always thought how does people make friends and have big groups and honestly use to envy them. After my son was born , my life was most difficult and fun , both at the same time, cos raising a baby was a daunting task, i was totally occupied with him but as he grew up i took him to park which i never ever thought ...of doin in last so many years and i found so many friends there that i actually have a group of friends for real of my age and we do everything i use to do back in college days. So trust me Even though its a  tough path to find a friend but its worth every single penny . And most important now you have full time little pal with you which will never make you get bored.

Finally got some time for me.....

Firstly i would like to thank everyone who reads my blog and like it ....i really appreciate your remarks and comments, Please keep writing, also i am really sorry for not keeping up with this as i was really really busy with my baby boy .....who is an energizer:) never gets tired and thinks same for me as well.
Now that he is 28 months i can finally hold my laptop but conditions do apply (when he is sleeping) .....wow i can't believe its over an year now since i have written but guys let me make a candid confession, make a best of your time till you get pregnant cos trust me you are gonna a crave for this free time once a have kido in your hand. Honestly i could never contemplate managing a child could be so demanding and tedious job...to be honest today i feel why the hell did i ever get bored i could do so much when i had all the time on this earth just for me...so little advise and to do list  for the all would be mothers, please make a best of your time cos this is your time go out for movies, do long hour shopping without carrying those heavy baby gears, watch good movies at home without any disturbance, pick up your favorite  book and read, join library, go for bowling, most important go for spa, go to salon, you gonna miss these things terribly at-least for 2 3 years take my word for that, in my case i dont know for how long cos he is just handful even today.So good luck with your little one.

New Mom of a 5 month old son.....

Ohh Boy!!!!! wat a journey it has been...... from being pregnant to being mother and a parent.Now i am a proud mother of 5month old boy, its a wonderful experience of being a mother although daunting initially but marvelous as time passes by and with your little angle growing up.

For all would be Moms first of all, congrats on your pregnancy and trust me its going to be a long ride with lots of mood swings which are not always good specially for indian moms for being away from your family its make it all the more difficult to cope up with those unwanted mood swings.

I remember those first morbid first 3 three months(First trimester).....i wish that was not a part of this cute journey.Second trimester was the best as if nothing is wrong , you feel completely normal except your stomach will start showing little bit so now you get into the feel of being pregnant as for me being pregnant always meant just having a big stomach and nothing else but believe me its much more than that. Lastly the third trimester you start preparing for the big day .Each day gets longer and longer as now you just cant wait to see the cute little strawberry of yours. (FOR INDIAN MOMS DONT MAKE A HASTE TO CALL YOUR PARENTS FROM INDIA FOR DELIVERY TRY TO CALL THEM IN THE LAST MONTH OF PREGNANCY BECAUSE POST DELIVERY YOU REALLY NEED THEIR HELP) life really changes with a little one in your hand trust me you need a helping hand in those intial months with your child. That's the lesson i learnt from my experience.

Vicious circle of health Insurance......in America

AAAHHHAAAA!!!!! yeahh ..actually this is how i scream when anybody including me fall sick at my home ...I am sorry to say but in America there is a solution to everything but, god forbid if you fall sick there is just no solution.......The terms and conditions of health insurance companies are even complicated than immigration law terms.
The whole exercise starts primarily from choosing your health insurance there is a whole avalanche of companies offering same services, selecting one is the most daunting task...as each and every company commits they are the best and offering cheapest services, but as you read the terms and policy carefully you end up realising all policies are same.But using your smart instincts and even your sixth sense we end up choosing an insurance hoping this one covers everything as said by the agents.
Now starts your insurance plans and you feel relaxed knowing, finally you are FULLY covered under health insurance.You end up paying around 250-300$ per month for no reason and with god's grace if everybody is fine at home then you usually do not need any medical attention, quite often so paying big bucks for nothing OR you can say for hoping you will fall sick one day and will need these services (WHICH ACTUALLY NEVER HAPPENS COS NOBODY WANTS TO FALL SICK EVER)and, then one fine day you fall sick and need doctors attention...this is where actual thrill starts, because as you are under new insurance you have to now select your Doctor from the list given by the insurance agents.After shortlisting 6 to 9 Doctors from the list you start calling and keep asking if they are accepting new patients and if you are lucky probably 3 or 4 doctor will say YES... they are accepting ...YIPPPPIIEE...now you ask for appointment date ....there is a 2 months wait...YES!! 2 months wait, you read it correct, very reverentially the receptionist says the earliest date available is after 2 months....i usually double check that because i feel their is some mistake but their is no mistake...she actually said that..after this long exercise half of your problem is already is gone..
Now you finally wait for appointment date and go visit a doctor, after checking you there is no ways Doctor will let you go without prescribing 1 or 2 tests , so go to lab and get tests assuming that you are fully covered under insurance..the biggest shock comes after 1 month when you receive you bill at home and you end up paying more than 1000$dollars because your insurance company will say the tests which doctor prescribed, only those tests were not covered in your insurance ..congratulations..
Honestly, i have been here for more than 2 years now and till date i am unable to understand what is covered and what insurance plans we should go for and important things to take into consideration before buying health insurance, so that i can get the best value for my bucks, if you have the answer to this..PLEASE DO SHARE..

2 successful years In America

Ohhh yes...... i have completed my 2 years in USA actually, more than 2 years now, and things personally are pretty much getting back in shape...after all that struggle with my emotions, my feelings in short after all that ordeal ....i feel much better now. I must say it was and it is a very difficult journey where i was fighting with my own shortcomings infact still fighting, it was like i have lost the direction, everything was so convoluted , baffling which made feel like a complete looser.
Most of the time i was crying and that too for no reason on this earth.....i mean it was depressing and after realising that i am crying for no reason it was all the more depressing!!!!!!
The worst part is no matter how hard i tried to come over it, by trying to occupy my mind by reading, watching tv, exercising or anything which i use to like but nothing actually worked, infact it actually deteriorated my condition...that's morbid.Thanks to my husband who introduced me to this world of blog and gave me this idea, and that was the time i started this blog, without thinking about my english or grammar or my writing i started writing, as i desperately wanted an outlet where i could pour out all my frustration.After writing my first blog i didn't feel very good but i ensued writing and felt very light and much much better, and then i received comments from other H4 people who were facing the same problems, i was relieved knowing that what i was feeling was not unusal and i am not paranoid or something.

Although i am still fighting and waiting for things to get completely normal, but i feel much better than before and hope for the same in the coming future.

Believe me... if you are in that mode don't panic give yourself some time and things will get back to normal as time passes....and till then just keep pouring everything out here or where you feel like ....trust me you will feel better.

Another Victim of lay off in USA

Petrifying, daunting, not sure what to say about this sinking economy. Its poignant to see families in distress and now i am personally feeling all the more because this time my friends husband who works at one of the America's reputed company got news that it was his chance to be laid off....trust me i knew economy was bad but today i literally felt the pain of it , when she told me about this i could not believe for a second .... we are all so helpless and seriously worried about our future??? Sometimes i really feel i wish i knew what's next!!!!!......not sure when things are going to get better, but i am sure her husband will find a good job soon ....
For now i can only pray...... GOD BLESS THIS WORLD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Soniya's Kitchen north indian cooking classes

Yeah !!!! Soniya's Kitchen is my kitchen where anyone who wants to try something different can come and learn how to make authentic North Indian food....if you wanna know more about this, you can log on to http://www.soniyaskitchen.com.
This is where you can find what is available and how you can catch me...you not only learn but you also take home what you have cooked with me in one to one session ...isn't it amazin!!!!!
Lots of people who always thought how difficult indian cooking was have now realised, that actually how easy it is to make these delicacies, so they are really happy ...so what are you waiting for in case your taste buds are pushing you ...... come and join me in my kitchen at soniya's kitchen...